Job Interviews: Supporting Your Teen with disability Through Their Job Interview

As a parent, watching your teen with Autism take their first steps into the world of employment can be both exciting and nerve-wracking. The thought of their first job interview might make your heart race. You’re probably wondering:

• What if the employer doesn’t understand their speech?

• What if they can’t explain the accommodations they need?

• What if they don’t get a fair chance?

These concerns are valid, and as parents, it’s natural to want to protect and support our children. After years of advocating for their needs, attending IEP meetings, and coordinating with therapists and psychologists, stepping back can feel nearly impossible. But here’s the truth: your presence during a job interview may unintentionally hold your teen back.

The Impact of Parental Presence

When parents show up to interviews “to explain” or “to help,” it can send the wrong message to potential employers. Even with the best intentions, your involvement might inadvertently suggest:

• “My child can’t speak for themselves.”

• “You’ll be dealing with me, not them.”

• “Expect me to intervene frequently.”

While that’s not what you mean, it can create doubts in the employer’s mind about your teen’s independence and capability. For teens with Autism or other disabilities, it’s especially important to show employers who they are—not who we, as parents, fear they might be.

Preparing for Success

Instead of attending the interview, focus on preparing your teen beforehand. Here’s how you can help:

1. Practice Common Interview Questions: Go over questions they might be asked, like “Why do you want this job?” or “What are your strengths?” Help them think through their answers and practice saying them confidently.

2. Role-Play the Interview: Set up mock interviews at home. Act as the employer and let your teen practice introducing themselves, answering questions, and explaining any accommodations they might need.

3. Teach Self-Advocacy: Encourage your teen to express their needs clearly. For example, if they need extra time to process questions or prefer written instructions, help them practice explaining this in a professional way.

4. Discuss Nonverbal Communication: Teach them about making eye contact, offering a firm handshake, and sitting up straight. These small details can leave a positive impression.

5. Boost Their Confidence: Remind your teen of their strengths and achievements. Celebrate their progress and reassure them that it’s okay to feel nervous.

   
   

Trust the Process

It’s hard to let go, especially when you’ve been your teen’s biggest advocate. But stepping back and trusting them to handle the interview process is crucial for their growth. Employers need to see your teen as an independent individual who can take on responsibilities and advocate for themselves.

Your teen’s journey into employment is a big step toward independence. By preparing them for the interview and giving them the space to shine, you’re setting them up for success. Remember, every small step they take—from scheduling their first interview to landing the job—is a win worth celebrating.

What strategies have worked for you in helping your teen with Autism prepare for job interviews? Share your tips and experiences in the comments!